There’s an invisible barrier in my heart that seems to say no.  It wasn’t always that way — I used to be a people pleaser. But I’ve learned that the more you give the less you seem to receive. People seem to love the attention but not the love itself

I have learned being a people pleaser restricts you from your own free will. It provides happiness for someone even if you don’t want to. That’s what I seem to do.

I feel terrible when I say ‘no’, because it can upset people and seems to change how they feel about you. Maybe if I stop caring so much I’d be able to say no. I have free will and I have the choice to do whatever I want as long as I let myself say no. But caring about people is built into me. How am I supposed to find peace with something that harms me?